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Why You Should Embrace Vulnerability

“We all build internal sea walls to keep at bay the sadnesses of life and the often overwhelming forces within our minds. In whatever way we do this—through love, work, family, faith, friends, denial, alcohol, drugs, or medication—we build these walls, stone by stone, over a lifetime.”  ― Kay Redfield Jamison

We live in a “never enough” culture where we often try to seek more and be more, to mask the insecurities which make us feel vulnerable. As a result, whenever we experience obstacles, we build up emotional walls to protect ourselves from these negative feelings.

We’re all raised thinking that being vulnerable is associated with failure, disappointment, and being weak. But is that really the case? Vulnerability simply means uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. And if you think about it, if we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we’re actually being courageous because it’s much easier to avoid possibility of failure than to take a risk.

Additionally, being vulnerable enables us to connect with others, just as you’d appreciate others being open and honest with you, your vulnerability and willingness to share your feelings will be received positively and allow you to experience empathy from others.


How to overcome our insecurities?

It’s very natural for us to keep our shame to ourselves because we fear others’ opinion of us, and that it doesn’t really require the presence of others. However, more often than not, we become the worst critic of ourselves.

The best way to overcome our insecurities is to embrace vulnerability, and openly admit and talk about them with others. Verbalizing and naming them often diminish their power and will slowly make us resilient to it, because in doing so others can understand our fears and emotions, leading to empathy. We’ve all experienced the relief of opening up to others, and our problems melt away when we feel understood. So a lot of times, it’s a matter of you letting go of your fear of being judged, in order to set you on your way to overcome insecurities.

It’s also very important to learn to be satisfied with who we are and what we have, and instead of allowing our fear of “never enough” to take over, we accept that we have enough already e.g. by ridding the unreachable goals of perfection, and be able to open up to criticism or failure without letting it define who we are.


Hope this post resonates with you guys. Until next time.

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Winter & Cool Tones

Among the colors practiced by the street styles of the world, there are two shades that are unusually and consistently styled together: pale pink and grey – a stunning favourite of mine. The two team up to deliver an outfit that is minimalist, sleek, chic, and let’s not forget feminine.

For this look I’ve evenly distributed the pink and grey and added some white to dilute the intensity of the mix. Many may challenge that these colors are a tad too light for winter weather, but I personally think cool tones in winter time are way too underrated :-).
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Wide-leg Jeans Anyone?

If there is one denim style to try this season, it’s hands down the cropped wide-leg jeans. Wide-leg jeans feature a wide opening from your thighs and down. At a glance they may not look as hot and dainty as skinnys, but they are easily the epitome of casual chic. It takes a shape that is much more forgiving than tapered pants, you’ll especially love how straight and long your legs will look in them. I’m a big fan of matching anything wide-leg with fitted tops to create a flattering silhouette with top-down contrast. Who knew, that the iconic 70’s apparel would make such a strong come back. 8)

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Thanks for reading lovelies! ❤ Apologies for the poor image quality. The camera sensitivity had to be turned to very high because the shoot was the sunset hour.

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Hello, Paris

Think Paris and I conjure images of the Eiffel Tower soaring above the romantic city of lights. As the self-proclaimed hopeless romantic, I’ve always wanted to visit France and intimately appreciate the Eiffel Tower surrounded by Seine River and restless streets of Paris, but situate just distant enough to take it all in. Prettily dressed. Picture Perfect.

I had finally made it happen this fall. Living in the interconnected world while being social media savvy, I must have seen the Eiffel from every possible angle through a screen (Eiffel Tower steals the show on Instagram as one of the most photographed attractions in the world). But I have to say, nothing levels the dynamic expression of the real thing. Time passed by without me noticing and I ended up spending hours at Champ de Mars with the perfect view. Blissful. Memorable. Read More

The Timeless Dress

Maybe practicality comes with age. Being in my mid-20s and working in financial services have me hording neutral basics and professional attire constantly. It hasn’t always been this way though, I never had much fashion dilemma and used to get my hands on anything that caught my eye (while still trying to be frugal, somehow). There was something great about owning unique and inspiring pieces despite not having the occasions for them. For instance, this dress right here was purchased long time back, the moment I spotted it I knew it belonged with me. But it wasn’t a justifiable purchase by any means since 1) I couldn’t pull it off as casual wear 2) there were no fancy occasions coming up and 3) it was winter time. Nevertheless, the optimist in me always felt confident that it’d eventually come in handy.

As part of my Euro trip, I thought it was the absolute perfect opportunity to pack the dress. Wearing a head turning dress and looking fabulous while carelessly roaming the romantic streets of Paris? Sign me up. Read More

Lace & Hollows

I ventured to Europe a couple weeks ago and visited London and Paris. I have to say it’s the best vacation I’ve taken yet. Not only did I get to walk amidst living history and remarkable architecture, I also got to experience different cultures by playing local – eat street food, attend carnivals/events in the city, take public transit everywhere, hang at a cafe and converse with strangers. I can go on forever about the trip but perhaps I’ll talk about it in a separate blog post and just stay on topic here…(:

Below is a snippet of my stay in Paris, the shoot was done at Palais Royal which was one of my absolute favorite sites in Paris. This beautiful place radiates positive energy and intriguingly a calming atmosphere, all of which complimented by an hint of romance. To go with it all I’m wearing a exquisite white top consisted of flattering patterns of lace and hollows. I matched it with a neutral tone bubble shorts belted by a scarf to further augment femininity. Read More

Boyfriend Denim Jacket

As a loyal blogger to the boyfriend jeans trend, I want you ladies to give a chance to the boyfriend denim jacket. If baggy and casual is what you love, then this over-sized, unapologetic piece is just what you need. This Light Mineral Washed Distressed Denim Jacket takes a wild spin on the timeless classic which all of us have in our closets – the denim jacket which we wear on top of a t-shirt on a lazy day, or with a maxi dress to tone it all down a little. I’m a fan of distressed anything so I may have gone overboard by pairing the jacket with distressed jeans but hey, fashion is freedom of expression 🙂

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Effortless Chic

No matter how effortless my outfits appear, the truth is I put effort into all my looks. So how to be stylish without looking like you’re trying too hard? Here’s some thoughts –

  • Strike an overall balance – It’s never about JUST the clothes – the hair is important, the accessories are too, and certainly don’t forget about the makeup. These are the three things I consider before I assemble any looks (Fancy, effortless, or sloppy):
    • Fancy – all 3 elements need to be on point, the bare basics include: no-frizz hair,  wrinkle free garments, and make-up that takes at least 10 minutes to put on
    • Effortless – you can grab your everyday casual tee and match it with some comfortable boyfriend/mom/distressed jeans or whatever’s comfortable for you. But remember, you need good hair, straight or curled. And depending on how sassy you feel on that day, you can choose how much make-up you want (the more the sassier obviously). This is so that your vibe says: I’m definitely able to take good care of myself, but I’m having a chilled and lazy day. Still fabulous though 😉
    • Sloppy – To subtly scare away the boys you don’t like maybe? 😉 I mean, unless you’re sleeping beauty, just wake up and go out 🙂

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Summer Sets

In the previous post I jotted down my enthused thoughts on wardrobe sets, and here I continue the momentum and return with a newly purchased summer set from shein.com. What instantly attracted me to this ensemble were the little details – the delicate ruffles and the rope-like adjustable strings casually sitting on the top, adding both country and innocent vibes. This was also an outfit that screamed summer which Toronto simply hasn’t gotten enough of this year, so to compensate for it I embrace every opportunity to indulge myself with sunshine.

To go with the look, I wore my favorite summer glasses and my star-shaped earrings to add some complimentary warm tones to the outfit with their gold accents. Read More

OOTD: Feeling Casual

I don’t always wake up feeling the same, and how I feel influences how I style myself that day. Sometimes I wake up feeling brand new, and so would my fashion sense, so I’d go ahead and pull out a stunning classic which has been sitting at the bottom of my closet for a season or two. On other days I wake up feeling a little less ecstatic, and no surprise that would translate my style to “lazy” and “casual”. But even when I don’t feel all that great, I still refuse to look sloppy or wear colours that won’t go with each other in a million years. I’d still want to look put together to uplift my spirits.

This was one of those less ecstatic days. I wore my stretchy long bodycon providing me full coverage and allowing me to move freely. I then threw on my cozy army green bomber from Zara for some modest refinement to my outfit. I also quickly recognized that this was a look that my trusty Superstars would not fail. And voila! In terms of accessories, I mix and matched silver and gold – silver earrings to match the jacket zipper, gold glasses rims to complement my YSL’s chain strap. Read More